Like a bad Dolan. Cruising before Grindr, dating before smartphones, that's cute. But you could still get arrested for homosexuality in the 90s in New York!? There's no perfect place in the world. Not even San Francisco.

- Us being together won't make your anxiety go away. It always comes back.

- You have feelings for someone. You gotta just let yourself have those feelings.

Dear Gus... or whatever your name is...

The day you visited my church reminded me of a time when I thought my secret would kill me. Through my family, I found a way to carry on. And I don't want my kids to know a world without me. I want to teach them everything I know. I want them to live truthfully. I'm glad I met you. It's difficult to be angry when I see that you struggle in hiding, too. But I need you to know that it's not too late for you. I hope you can free yourself of the shame. Maybe one day I'll be in San Francisco. And maybe you'll find your San Francisco, too.

Until then,

Andrew